I am fat and I really want to rise above body shaming- can you help

naturally! Jul 13, 2020

Haha, the one thing i can teach you very well is how to be a relaxed fat woman.  

Once my Gazal teacher described his admiration for Sitara Devi, the Kathak legend. He said ‘when she put those huge thighs on the stage, it set ablaze. I cannot describe the strength, grit and beauty of her body. It meant business.’

Even though inside of me I knew that beauty has nothing to do with the body size but I had also inherited my generation's inferiority complex about fat thighs and all that drill. 

Turns out he wasn’t speaking alien.

๐ˆ๐ง ๐ˆ๐ง๐๐ข๐š ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ฌ๐ข๐ฆ๐ข๐ฅ๐š๐ซ ๐œ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ ๐›๐ž๐ข๐ง๐  ๐Ÿ๐š๐ญ ๐›๐ž๐œ๐š๐ฆ๐ž ๐š ๐œ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ซ๐ž๐œ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ฅ๐ฒ.

In generations before mine men and women speak of beauty in terms of bounty. They didn’t fat shame a woman. Instead, a fat woman to them is bountiful. Blessed and nurtured.

๐ƒ๐ข๐ ๐œ๐ก๐š๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐š๐›๐ฎ๐ง๐๐š๐ง๐ญ ๐๐ž๐ฌ๐œ๐ซ๐ข๐ฉ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ก๐ž๐ฅ๐ฉ ๐ฎ๐ฌ?

Ironically enough we are busy reworking representation. We are calling it including ‘curvy’ models in media. We are working so hard about something that is so natural.

๐Œ๐จ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ฅ๐ ๐ก๐š๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐ข๐ง๐๐ข๐ ๐ž๐ง๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐ง ๐œ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฏ๐ฒ.

And after childbirth plain fat. But fat isn’t ugly to these wise cultures. Fat is only one of the ways the body reacts to life and what’s happening in it.

The only exceptions are fat garnered purposely from stress eating to accumulate emotional insulation and insistent media benchmarks.

Otherwise fat isn’t dangerous or unhealthy. In generations, before mine fat, women are healthy enough to beat the wits out of us. Their bones are sturdy at 90. Their hair is shiny. Their hearts are fierce.

I have experienced many stages in my life. From a paper-thin teenager who was advised to eat more to a curvaceous sexy young adult to a moderately plump to a post-birth plain fat woman.

I know from my experience of body changes and inner work that fat isn’t the problem. 

๐…๐š๐ญ ๐ข๐ฌ๐ง๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ฒ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ž๐ฅ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ง๐ž๐ฅ๐ฒ.

Or don’t find love. Or your dreams don’t materialise. Your spouse doesn’t find you attractive (unless the spouse is that vain). Fat is only an excuse for the issues that run deeper.

In the Deprivation Triade we cover up the wounds of cultural appropriation with a suffocating illusion of sexy.

True relaxation with shape, size and volume of our body comes when we are in contact with our inner clarity. Our relationship with our weight does not reflect on the weighing scale, it reflects on our soul and her journey. 

Let's have some fun ladies! 

๐”๐๐ฎ๐ฆ๐›๐š๐ซ๐š ๐†๐ž๐ฌ๐ฎ

๐€ ๐Ÿ๐š๐ง ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฎ๐ฅ & ๐ข๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐ž๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก